What kind of relationship can I expect from a Mother I didn’t grow up with?

June 25, 2012 | Author: | Posted in Relationship Building

Question by Nikinyx: What kind of relationship can I expect from a Mother I didn’t grow up with?
I’m 23 years old, and my mom and dad got a divorce when I was 4. I lived with my dad my whole life. I’ve recently started talking to my mom again via email and texts (she lives on the other side of the country) and she is planning to fly home in a few months to visit me. Should I expect a mother/daughter relationship? Or can we only be friends now?

Best answer:

Answer by Capricorn
Well my mom didn’t raise me either, her mother did. I was with my grandmother from a little baby until I was grown. I knew I had a biological mother but did not have a lot of contact with her.

I finally went to visit my mother when I was in my twenties. My mother tried to make it a mother-daughter thing at first but I had no bond with her at all so it didn’t work for me. The best we could be were friends and that’s the way it has been.

It all depends though. She may not want the mother-daughter thing, only friends, or you may not want the mother-daughter thing, only friends, or it could be the other way around.

Just take it day by day and don’t expect anything. Let it flow.

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Comments (1)

  1. Lafleur69

    Don’t expect anything and go slow. What ever feels right to you, you don’t owe her anything. Maybe you could ask your dad for some advice? Or just check to see if he’s willing to be your sounding board, now and after you meet mom.

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